TPR So Far

So.  Termination of Parental Rights.  I have had a workweek to process what we talked about with Lasa's attorney now. Monday night we sat down with Lisa and learned a few things about this TPR idea we have in mind and its reality in the court system.

• Yes, we will go forward with it.
• No, it's not a given that it will be successful.
• Yes, I assumed TPR was an obvious next step to take after permanent custody. 
• No, it's not; in the eyes of the court, it is an entirely different beast. 
• Yes, Angelique's failure to visit with and provide for Lasa are grounds for TPR.
• But no, they are not strong grounds for TPR apparently. (!!!)
• Ugh, the judge Lisa expects to hear our case has been hard to move a TPR through.
• Though yes, really, that's fair and judicious.
• No, we should not initiate visits with Angelique while she is in jail. 
• Because yes, it could interfere with our case for TPR.
• Yes, Lisa will file by the end of November.  
• So yes,  court could be anytime between January-March.  Ish.
• No, this is still not even considered a motion by us. 
• Yes, this is considered a motion by Lasa's atty, in her perceived best interest of the child.
• Yes, Lisa will visit Angelique at the jail after she has been served the papers.
• Yes, she will see if Angelique will just agree to TPR and save all the hassle.
• No, I won't be surprised if Angelique still refuses.
• But yes, I absolutely think it is possible.  Praying for the miracle change of heart.
• Yes, it is possible this will all end with a No.
• Yes, I will accept that from the Lord with peace.
• Yes, this thing I thought was a simple filing and next step toward adoption could actually get ugly.  We could be called to testify in court.  Against Angelique.  
• Yes, that makes me physically sick to imagine. 
• No, I didn't not imagine it would be this involved.
• As well, I am told by a friend that her lawyer will try to disparage us as well.  That will hurt, I imagine.  
• But no, I can't imagine a single thing they could launch against us.  Honestly. We have been CAREFUL to be in Angelique's corner as long as we have known her.
• Yes, I am slow to anticipate these things apparently.  
• Gosh. 
• Yes, I have wavered this week about whether we should still proceed.
• No, Josh has not wavered one bit. 
• Yes, I agree he is right and that this is fair and reasonable to go after.  
• But no, it's just not what I thought it was going to be.  
• Yes, that scares me.
• It is what it is.  
• So yes, Soldiering on!