We have had a weird week with Angelique that has sort of put me in a weird head space, so I have only a strange mismatched post to show for the last 10 days or so.
Hat Dat at Anchored in Anna's class. She's the cutest!
We made a quill pen with one of our lessons. I could not believe the luck that this size feather was found in our backyard just a few days before we needed it!
Josh dusted off his little trailer train for his lawnmower and Lasa (cautiously) loved it!
Noah's completed timeline project for Anchored. His teacher texted me this after he presented it and exclaimed how much she loved it. I was so glad for him.
I upgraded Lasa to a regular pillow from a toddler pillow and she took to it right away. She just about never used the toddler pillow and I really needed her to lay her locks on a satin pillowcase instead of the cotton crib sheet. Worked like a charm. Happy Kimmie!
Lasa's first play-doh experience. She was so timid about it. Wouldn't squeeze it or play until I manipulated her fingers to do so. Then she enjoyed it more.
We had the playdoh out to begin with because the kids were making physical maps of the Louisiana Purchase to go along with our Lewis and Clark unit.
Anna continues to rock it out at her American Girl sewing class. Her cape and bonnet are completed as well as the pjs. So proud of her. She is the littlest one in her class and keeping up with ease.
I cannot put down my Valley of Vision lately. One quote among many I marked this week.
Field Trip with a slew of homeschoolers to the Tennessee Performing Arts Center on Friday to see a performance of Alice in Wonderland. It was neat to go there as we have never been before. The play, unfortunately, wasn't as interesting as we thought it would be. But not bad either!
In terms of Angelique stuff, she inexplicably called multiple times a day all last week and texted on top of that. She kept wanting to tell Lasa goodnight, so we did what we could to make that happen. Then she asked for a Saturday visit at a restaurant instead of our usual Sunday. We did what we could to make that happen as well. And then she cancelled at the last minute. Which snowballed into a mess of a Saturday for me and Josh as we re-evaluated how often we will allow her to throw our weekends for a loop. So, no visit happened this weekend after all the calls and such all week. I cannot tell you why she was suddenly so much in touch after 19 months of not being in any form of regular contact. Not sure what is up with her or why, but we will keep trucking along and see what comes. Court hearing is next week and then things should pick up a little bit on the TPR front. I am tired of it all.
Your girl and her sewing... SEW FUN!!!
ReplyDeleteThat boy and his timeline... SO BIG!!!
A week of ups and downs with A... no fun. I'm sorry for the drama. I wonder if it's her way of trying to show she cares in the midst of TPR. Perhaps even an unrealistic expectation that it might somehow change the outcome. Again. so sorry for all the drama. Praying for you guys!!!
Yes, I have speculated a million things and juggled a million responses to those things in my head. One of those being guilt. Which I know has no place for us for how we all arrived here, but there it is. :/ And yes, Josh thinks she thinks that this will show she is involved, but I guess what she doesn't know is that only the months preceding the filing will be considered. I wish I could speak directly with her and ask her what is up. But, frustratingly, she is still such a mystery to us and she does not answer our questions ever so we don't even ask anymore. After all this time. Just frustrating. Ready for a new chapter. Thanks for hearing my woes this week. :}
ReplyDeleteLoved this post. Well, most of it. Do y'all have to allow visits at this point? Frustrated for you.
ReplyDeleteVisits are listed in our custody paperwork as being at our discrection. So that gives us a lot of wiggle room. So far, we have not rescinded our original standing offer for every single stinkin' Sunday though that we started back in 2015. The tricky part is that she never take advantage of every week. She still averages about once a month maaaaaybe? But the constant will we-won't we know what to do with our Sundays has just gotten really old. Even more so when we switch it up at her request only to be put out even more and then all for nothing anyway.
ReplyDeleteThe other part of this is that now that reunification is not the goal, once a week a visits don't make sense at all anymore. But it doesn't look like we are gonna break that news to her quite yet. TPR would make a really timely schedule for us to make that shift. And honestly, even if TPR is a no, it's still timely to reorder our expectations for each other going forward. We think when we do it, we will take it down a notch to every other week and then when she doesn't use them, we will go ahead and take it down to once a month. All that is needed at this point is continued contact for relationship, not building a bond for reunification.
How's that for too much information? This middle window of time between foster care and adoption is just so tricky and technical and touchy. And trying!
All I can do is pray.
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